Meeting Your Online Date Face to Face and What to Do If it Goes Wrong

Well done. You have joined a great dating site, and found what you feel is your ideal partner. After getting to know each other online, and seeing the picture, all is well and you decide to meet face to face. This is the first step in a new relationship, will it be everything you have ever dreamed of? or will it all go wrong? If it does turn into a nightmare, and you need to get out and fast, how do you do it, and what precautions should you take to make sure you keep your escape routes open?

You may have emailed, spoken on the phone, and seen the other persons smiling face on a digital photo, even so your first meeting is in reality little better than a blind date. So you are there nervously waiting for your soul mate, but after you meet you realize quickly that there is little hope of a spark, and all you can hope for is a fire drill or other man made disaster to end it as quickly as possible. You can’t rely on fate intervening, so how do you ditch a bad date? Here are eight practical options you should always have in mind in case of a bad date emergency.

1 – First impressions count. Make sure you are there first and get yourself in a position where you can see the door. In such a way that you can see your date arrive but they can’t see you. If you get a look at them and they look approximately like the photo, but 10 years older or 50 pounds heavier, you can escape down your previously surveyed getaway route. You can always make an excuse phone call and apology once you are out. It’s guilt free you only ran because they lied first.

2 – The escape call. Before leaving for your date make sure you arrange with a friend to call you at a time when you will be a little into your date. After answering the call you can either tell your date it was not important, if all is well, if not however you can fake an emergency that will get you out of there fast.

3 – The fake call, If you didn’t arrange a get out call, you can always fake one, either by saying you have received a text message, or by going to the bathroom and saying someone called whilst you were away.

4 – The reverse fake call – You or a friend, can call the venue where you are having the date, and get them to page your nightmare companion with a fake emergency. They will be puzzled when they receive the message, but nine times out of ten will make their excuses and leave. This may also get you a free meal, don’t hang around too long though, because they may come back!

5 – The fake illness – You can always say you feel ill and need to leave, this takes a bit of care as if you seem too ill, your date may try and leave with you to look after you, so use with caution.

6 – If you are feeling particularly callous you can go the the bathroom and instead run straight out of the exit and don’t look back. Variations of this can be used depending on what type of venue you find yourself in.

7 – This works better for women, but can be adapted for both sexes. Why not use psychological warfare, and get your date to run out on you, by announcing how cute your kids will be, or how you can already see you two being married. Extreme variations of this can include, talking about the voices in your head or even talking to the voices in your head. The main advantage of this method is, if your date dumps you, you will still get to enjoy the meal, drinks, or whatever, and it’s completely guilt free.

8 – Shockingly you could try being honest. Talk to your date say you are sorry but you can see no hope of this date working, make your excuses and go. The advantage of this is whilst not being entirely guilt free, it is a little less heartless than just running, especially if carefully worded.

I hope these tips help you next time you find yourself in a hopeless situation and gets you out of there fast. I know it may seem cold but there really is no point prolonging a date once you see it has no future. Move on and better luck next time.

Make 50k A Month With An Online Dating Site

It has been well documented that online dating is a phenomenon which has changed the lives of millions of people throughout the world. Two out of every five singletons in Europe and the USA aged 25 – 40 have used an on line service to either find a partner, or simply to enhance their social lives by making new friends.

This exponential explosion in the dating sector has meant that many companies owning and operating the sites themselves have come from a standing start to generating significant revenues in a matter of just a few months. It is possible to make a small fortune from online dating but, then again, it’s just as possible to lose your shirt. For every successful site, there are five others which simply ‘got it wrong’. If you follow these few basic guidelines, you could join the cyber-revolution which has not only become a lifestyle choice in itself for a great many consumers, but an extremely profitable market for webmasters to enter.

1. Niche works. Yes, we all know the names of the global dating sites which dominate the sector, but if you want to create a site that attracts millions of members, you are going to need very deep pockets just to get on the first rung of the ladder. There are a great many very successful sites that either cater to special interest groups such as bikers, military personnel etc or geo-targeted sites that cover just one country or even one city. The advantage of this kind of concept is that it is much easier and cheaper to promote than a service which attracts all-comers. The sophistication of online marketing, particularly the various pay-per-click search engines, enables you to target your audience very specifically thereby maximising your return on investment without having to overly stretch your financial resources.

2. Don’t over-complicate the design of the site. The primary aim of the homepage should be to encourage visitors to register with your service, not to marvel at your use of different colours or design features. Stick to just two colours (one should preferably be blue – the colour of trust) on a white background and avoid flashing buttons at all costs.

3. Keep your proposition simple. If a dating site looks so complicated that only ‘teccies’ can use it, you’ll lose most of your audience as soon as they land on your homepage. The most successful dating sites tend to offer a very basic system of picture profiles and secure messaging. People sign-up, create their profiles, upload their photos and start sending email messages to other members with whom they think they might be compatible. It’s easy and you don’t have to have a degree in computer sciences to do it. But there are many sites out there which offer a bewildering array of features – video profiles, psychological profiling and the like; all very expensive to integrate and manage and most, to be frank, are a complete waste of time and money.

4. Offer a free trial. This might seem rather ironic in an article which purports to tell you how to create a profitable business, but in order to get your members to pay you a subscription fee, you have to get them to register with your site in the first instance. If you let people have a look around, browse through the database and perhaps send a couple of messages to other people, they are far more likely to want to subscribe than if you ask them to do so straight away without giving them a taste of what your site can offer.

5. Populate your database as quickly as possible. People follow other people when they join dating sites and if your site looks like it hasn’t got many members, then people will give it a wide berth. When you launch, it’s well worth you doing a limited email marketing campaign which offers a free subscription to founder members. Remember, the hardest part of creating a successful online dating business is to get your first 100 registrants – you want them there in week one and the quickest way to do that is to offer a freebie to your first sign-ups. You’re not losing money – these are the most important members and without them your business will not get past first base.

6. Spend your marketing budget wisely. You don’t have to throw money at a dating site in order to promote it effectively – you just have to be smart. Establish an affiliate programme with one of the main networks operating in your country as soon you launch your site. Affiliates are third party web-sites which refer traffic to your business on a revenue sharing basis. You don’t have to pay affiliates to join your programme, you just offer them a percentage of any subscription revenue which they generate and this is the most cost-effective way of promoting yourself. And you should also avoid generic search-terms when you instigate pay-per-click campaigns on the major engines. Keywords like ‘dating’ and ‘online dating’ are expensive to bid on and convert less well than niche terms which are more applicable to the actual concept of your site. If, for example, you are running a dating service for singles living in Chicago, keywords like ‘Chicago dating’ or ‘singles in Chicago’ will be relatively cheap to bid on and will yield a far better conversion rate than the more general terms.

7. Offer good customer service. Remember, your members are real people many of whom will not be as computer savvy as you are and when any of them contact the site with a problem (a forgotten password or log-in difficulties are usually the most common), you should endeavor to respond as soon as you are able. An unanswered message is the easiest way to actually lose a member so don’t ignore or put off answering the mails that you will inevitably receive.

8. Communicate with your members. I’ve left this point until last but it it just as important as anything I’ve mentioned above. A weekly newsletter to your database will encourage people to log-in to their accounts on a regular basis (particularly if they are able to click through directly from the email to the site without having to log-in) and will also help to foster an emotional bond between your business and it’s paying customers. Every business to consumer online entity should have a human face and site owners who ignore this do so at their peril.

So there you have it; take heed of the eight snippets of advice that I have outlined above and you too can reap the substantial rewards on offer in this exciting and vibrant market sector.

Online Dating Guide For Men Over 40

In fact, maturity gives you distinctive advantages. By now you know who you are and what you want in life. The women you will be dating also have grown up and learned how to live their lives. It’s time for less games and more transparency and openness.

1. Write down what you seek.

You can get exactly what you are looking for. If you simply want some casual encounters, enjoying ladies’ attention and entertaining, this is achievable.

If you desire a committed partner to spend the rest of your life with, it’s also possible to find. You are still young enough to make it happen.

Even if you dream about family and kids, it’s not too late. For example, Slavic women from countries of the former USSR with unfortunate gender ratios are seeking partners online and they are willing to accept someone older to be able to realize their dreams of family and marriage.

For instance, in Ukraine women are in the situation of 86 males for 100 females. It’s plainly impossible for some single ladies to find partners. A single 35-year-old Belarus woman would be usually open to accept a man who is 30-50 years old, or even older. Besides, a 35-year-old lady will be really eager to cut the chase and get married quickly to start a family sooner. Such realistic options in our age of total Internet connectivity became accessible to anyone.

No matter what you are looking for, there is a quick and efficient way to make your dreams come true. Just be honest about what you really desire and don’t sell yourself short.

2. Get great photos.

Online dating is all about presentation. You will improve your chances to meet quality women and cut down rejections dramatically if you have an excellent photo in your profile, as compared with a gloomy selfie shot.

Save yourself time and money that you will inevitably waste in dead-end dates by getting nice pictures for your online dating profile.

>> Women love style. A guy in a collared shirt and pants looks more attractive to ladies than a man in a stretched T-shirt. Better quality women pay even more attention to the way you dress.
>> Smiling in your photo helps you appear approachable and happy with your life.
>> Beautiful surroundings lift up the spirit of your photo. It makes your picture stand out from the crowd.

3. Write positive texts.

We all know people who manage to bring the liveliest party down. Certainly, no one wants to spend the rest of their lives-or even one date!-with someone who constantly complains. If you want to talk about things that are important for you, make sure you do it in a positive way.

For instance, instead of “I despise smokers” write “I prefer people who do not smoke”.

4. Be open and truthful.

It may be tempting to shave a few years or pounds in your online dating profile but resist the urge. Sure, we’d love to think that we look younger than our biological age. This is quite typical for people, while it’s unlikely for anyone to make a statement, “I look older than my age”.

Ladies will notice if you indeed look good for your age and they will be excited about it. But starting with lies is not a good way and could drive the girl to feel used. Rather tell the truth and lay a strong foundation for a first-class connection.

5. Let them see the real you.

There are certain things that make you unique. If your friends were asked to characterize you in 3-4 words, what would they say? You may think some of your distinct features are unremarkable or even negative, but you could be surprised, there are other people who have a different view. They find such traits attractive or admirable.

Some Romanian women may view certain qualities in a man attractive, while local ladies would see them in a different light. By the way, even in your local area people have different opinions. By being sincere you will attract like-minded people and put off the ones who are unsuitable for you.

This is why it’s best to describe precisely what makes you the person you are. That’s the easiest way to find a good match through online dating.